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I feel like giving up on Politics.

— I feel like giving up on politics sometimes. The rhetoric from the Right is overwhelming at times, and other times overwhelmingly stupid. Like the kitty-litter issue that’s a non-issue that’s all over the internet right now. Or politicians saying they will only accept winning as a fair election. What’s the point in engaging? Both sides are set in their ways, there’s zero room for compromise, so there doesn’t seem to be any point in having discussions in the public forum. It’s also why more and more I think the Blue states should just become their own country, and let the Red states do the same. With a giant wall between the two. Even if we did that I have a theory how that would work out: without Blue state taxes, or Blue state common sense, it wouldn’t be long till the Red states were trying to invade to take over. The only difference is it’d be a conflict like India vs Pakistan, two nuclear powers.

Most of what I read from republicans I just don’t agree with. Their obsession with Trans athletes and bathrooms, banning books, banning Black history, banning abortion, banning sex education and birth control, their war on education, especially science, their idea of continually cutting taxes at the very top, outspending Democrats every single time they’re in office, especially deficit-spending, which they love, their war against minorities, against women, against Jews and Muslims, against the LGBTQ community, trying to force Christianity on everyone; they’re even against the police except on those rare occasions they’re attacking unarmed minorities. I just don’t see the point. Democrats and Republicans have two entirely different worldviews. We want the U.S. to ideally wind up looking like Japan, while keeping our military, of course. Republicans seem to want us to look like Greece. We want to evolve past things like the gun obsession, the war on drugs, and the prison industry, while Republicans want to grow all those things. Even the moderates can’t get anything done because the base of both parties won’t allow it.

So why bother engaging at all? Maybe it’s time to step back, and just say, “Screw it. Let it all burn if it has to.” And, yes, that’s really cynical, but I’m not going to change my views and I doubt they will, either, so what’s left? I really don’t see any point in engaging with them any more. I honestly think a lot of them are stupid. Which I suppose is a good thing because you can cure stupid with education, but a significant portion of them are dumb, and there’s no cure for that. Those people are terminal. We don’t look down on you just to be assholes, we look down on you when we hear you say things like you reject the science of a vaccine because you heard it causes Autism or makes you drop dead later on, but then you want US to put OUR faith in some fucking imaginary sky person you say is controlling the universe.

And the thing that really pisses us off about that is YOU don’t know your own religion. I’m not going to rattle off a bunch of scripture, but notice how Republicans, who are allegedly Christian, only quote from the Old Testament. That is the God they follow, not the New Testament God that Jesus allegedly came to bring the good news about. And WHY? Because New Testament God preached things like compassion, charity, forgiveness, LOVE, all things Republicans have no time for. Not once does it say abortion is illegal in the Bible. It does however mention giving women accused of adultery “bitter waters” to induce abortion in the Old Testament. Yet they use the Bible to claim abortion is against God’s will.

Nowhere in the Bible does it say being Trans is in any way wrong. Not even in the Old Testament. The problem here being most Republicans don’t even know what Trans is. They’re assuming it means cross-dressing, not that the Bible has any problem with that, either. And they assume it means Men will become Trans to have sex with little kids. Again, it doesn’t, but your Old Testament did allow for the marriage of girls as young as age three, so you might want to ban that book. Just like the Bible gave the green light for slavery and rape. Republicans seem to think they meant Black slaves, but the Bible doesn’t make that distinction. And on the subject of Rape, it’s clearly frowned-upon by the Bible, but could be overcome if you paid your victim’s father 50 silver pieces and forced her to marry you. Then all is forgiven. Your book, not mine. But by all means, ban Catcher In the Rye for being obscene. Idiots.

The New Testament even has Jesus hanging out with young naked boys it says he “knew“, which in that language means he had carnal knowledge of them, but no one talks about that. And they should. If Jesus was Gay it should be celebrated, not shunned. His second-most important Commandment was love your neighbor as yourself, which again, most Republicans wouldn’t know, because they didn’t read it. They skimmed. They just cherry-picked the Old Testament for passages to justify being complete assholes to other people, and fixated on the “Judge not” part of the New Testament for when they themselves fuck up. The Bible doesn’t work that way. It’s not pick and choose, and you can’t ignore 95% of it and think by asking forgiveness your fairy tale deity will grant it. Assuming for half a minute your God is real, it says right in it God knows what’s in your heart and however you judge others YOU will be judge by God.

We, being curious, and open-minded often read religious texts to broaden our horizons, and so we know what we’re talking about when the subject comes up. Personally, I have read every single word in the Bible three times in my life. Three times I read it front to back. My Bible is full of notes, things I looked up. I even had companion texts like the Angel Scrolls, which I’m betting most of you have never even heard of, and are now googling it.

So Republicans use stuff like this to oppress other people, like they use rhetoric about Marx, and Hitler as if that’s what Democrats want. If anything, Republicans are more like Nazis than we are. Pretty much everything the Nazis believed in, so do Republicans. The Nazis hated women’s rights, they hated equal rights, they hated worker’s rights, they favored the corporations, oligarchs, and the military. They hated other religions, they hated free speech, they banned and burned books, they especially hated Jews, and their party color was Red. Be honest: that sounds like Republicans, right? Just because the word Socialist is in the name “Nazi” doesn’t make them Democrats any more than North Korea is Democratic. It’s just a name.

Republicans only seem to care about guns, money, and power. And making everyone else as miserable as they can. Seeing other people suffer, seeing other people lose rights makes them happy. And I just don’ see how we can ever work with people like that.

I didn’t forget, I’ve just been Busy.

When I first started this blog back in 2009, I think, it was just a way for me to get my book ideas on “paper” for me to see and read. Then I started blogging about everything. I had quite a bit of traffic at one point, I had over 20,000 unique visitors a month. Now it’s way lower because I post like once every few months. And I have thousands of spam messages on my blog and I’ve tried a few scripts to remove them, but short of deleting all my comments at once, I don’t know how to take care of that.

So, I’ve been kind of depressed lately, I should be doing Uber all day, but I’ve been gaming instead. It’s not fair to my wife, and I feel like shit because of it, which makes me more depressed. Before the pandemic, I loved doing Uber. Then I switched to food delivery, which I mostly did post starting Uber only during the lunch and dinner rush. Now I pretty much just do that when I go out. I do passengers here and there and there’s a Lyft quest I might try for this weekend, but it’s 40 trips, and it’s only a guarantee of $505 if you do it. At least, if you make that much you don’t get anything extra, but there are streak bonuses not counted in the total, which means more money. I need to do the math.

Anyway, I will try to post more soon.

I’m in FB jail for 3 days because of a comment.

In a driver group on a thread about violence against drivers someone mentioned bulletproof cars to stop carjackers. I said I’d just run them over and got reported and a 3 day ban from FB and a 6 day ban from groups. Previously I had reported someone twice that threatened to kill the President and Facebook said it’s not a violation. Twice. Twice they said that isn’t a violation, but me saying I’d run over a guy aiming a gun at me is inciting violence. WTF.

I know it’s been a while. I didn’t forget.

August. A lot has happened since then. Not really life-changing, I’ve just been busy with work, and life in general. I’m still doing Uber, Lyft, DoorDash, Grubhub, Instacart, and Shipt, but I have stopped riding. Back in October my derailleur on my mountain bike broke. It now only shifts between 1-7 and clicks like crazy. If I had a bike stand I could probably fix it, but I don’t want to. I got this bike just to get around when my car got repossessed a few years back. I plan to buy a GT in the near future and get back out there. The problem now is last time I rode it was kind of warm, October, and now it’s crazy cold in the mornings. It’s not my favorite weather, but I want to get in shape and that means committing to riding in most conditions. Maybe snow days I’ll take off.

In later news, we’re suing our former landlord. We left the place looking nice and in good condition. We had plenty of issues there we didn’t create, but left it looking nice. We asked for the security back sending the letter after we moved, certified and regular mail, it got signed for, and nothing came. We paid rent on time every month for 5 1/2 years, even during the rent moratorium during the pandemic to the tune of almost $115,000. Our security was $1700, but even though she’s the one that didn’t renew our lease, she felt entitled to it. So we’re suing. Wouldn’t you know it, she counter-sues claiming $5,000 in damages when we moved out. So now she’s going to look like a bully in court when she can’t prove any such claim. People suck.

MY friend killed himself 8 years ago, and I still miss him.

It was someone that was my best friend for many years. We met in 1992, hung out almost daily, lived together twice, but eventually grew apart around 2009. I reached out, and we started hanging out again, but he was bad news. We both had a troubled past, but where I grew and changed, he got worse. More into drugs, more into negative thoughts, and he wound up jealous of the girl I was dating. I had been with her for 6 years when in 2011 he said something that was the final straw.
Over the years my few other good friends asked why I was still friends with him. This was a guy who had burned me many times over the years, but I always made up with him. He didn’t deserve it for the things he did (like getting a different girl I was dating high then hooking up with her while I was sleeping), he was just not the kind of person you would want as a close friend. I can’t explain why, but we were anyway. We just “clicked”. Anyway, that last straw in 2011 he said, literally, “Maybe if you spent less time with your bitch, you’d have more time to hang out with me”. He meant it to be disrespectful. I don’t talk about women like that, and this was a girl I was deeply committed to. So I cut him off. I told him it was the last straw, and that I was done.
3 years ago, after my cat of 14 years died and I was feeling particularly devastated, I decided to do some digging on FB to see what he was up to. I had planned to reach out. The last posts I saw from him were from 2013. As soon as I saw that I got that feeling in my stomach. So I googled his name hoping I wasn’t right. But I was. I contacted his father who he wasn’t close to, but he told me on FB that my friend was very depressed, and they were all sad about it, etc. He was kind of dismissive, so I’m not sure. He also told me a year after my friend killed himself his son killed himself, and his former girlfriend. I guess bad things really do travel in threes.
So he had been dead for 5 years when I found out, and to this very day, to this very minute, I am convinced had I not written him off he’d still be here. He didn’t have any other good friends, just acquaintances. Or dealers, etc. He rarely saw his mother, and in the entire time I knew him saw his father once. To top all that off, most of my best memories are also with him. My early 20s were a blast. Even my early 30s when we hung out all the time were pretty amazing. And we both lived in what used to be my favorite city. And now it’s just his ghost shrouding it when I go there. Everything reminds me of him. I cried more for my cat because my cat didn’t choose to die and was there for me every single day: I know it’s weird to some to be that attached to a pet, but I did cry for my friend, too when I found out. I kind of felt like an idiot crying about something that happened 5 years prior, but I had just found out about it. So for me it happened then. I just really miss him.
If one good thing came out of it, I started reaching out to some people who were less than popular I used to see around town to check up on them, even though it’d been years (they’re on my FB friends list). I even started hanging out with one of them. We get coffee on occasion. Because of the pandemic and his kidney problems (he gets dialysis, not idea why specifically, didn’t ask), we haven’t in the last year, but we talk online frequently. I’m determined to try to pay attention going forward, just in case there is anything I can do. I guess I just wanted to know if it’s weird to feel this way years later.

Still deactivated by Uber. MOnths later.

8,000 Trips. 100% rating as a delivery driver, 4.94 as a passenger driver.
I called 5 times: zero record of a single complain of any kind the entire time I’ve been doing it. Just that it’s permanent and the “specialized team” will get back to me in two weeks. I’ve been waiting since February and they never get back to me.
About 50 emails between Facebook, the app, and Twitter all with the same reply: violated the TOS, issues with being respectful with other drivers, and failed Checkr background: I passed the Checkr background check every time including the most recent one. I sent them proof of that and an email from Checkr confirming I passed. No tickets on my record EVER. No accidents. Nothing going on in court. As for other drivers, they can’t find any record of any such incidents, nor have I ever argued with any drivers. A few I say hi to and talk to briefly about which restaurants are hopping, or whatever. Same with the TOS, they can’t tell me what was allegedly violated.
My wife thinks it’s because I was a Diamond driver and using the free tuition at ASU and they got tired of paying for it. Deactivate a driver and they don’t have to pay for it any more, but that’s kind of cynical: why have a reward tier than when you reach and claim your reward you get deactivated? My acceptance rate was 100% and my cancellation rate was 0%. ONLY because of the free tuition and I didn’t do UberEats when I started doing the college classes, just passenger trips. Less risk of going too far for no money.
Uber also banned me from using their apps. Except Postmates. My driver account and personal account work fine on that. I’m still active on Lyft, Instacart, Shipt, Flex, Grubhub, DoorDash, and Postmates. Never any issues on any of them, either. I already tried emailing every news media site I could, but they apparently don’t care. Which is annoying, because they do care about Uber spending hundreds of millions to get former drivers back, but not about them canning existing drivers for no reason.
WTF.

Race shouldn’t matter when dating.

Isn’t it possible that some White people just accept anyone that’s interesting to them regardless of the color of their skin? I feel like I’m being put into a box suggesting I should maybe stick to my own race. OBVIOUSLY, you can see the color of the person you’re with, but if you’re not a racist, and it’s not a fetish, and you see no more value in a White person than anyone else, why limit yourself to your own race? My wife likes White guys. I like Hispanic women. We’re really hap together and race has never been an issue in the 8 years we’ve been married. I’ve dated Black girls, Asian girls, Middle Eastern girls: yes, Muslims included, Jewish girls, Native American women, and, obviously, Hispanic women. The majority of the women I have dated were White. But the longest relationships I had were with Hispanic women. It wasn’t by design, it just worked out that way. I was as happy with the White girls as anyone else: at the time. I am attracted to the Latin culture and I make no apologies for that. It’s not a feti9sh. I’ve always just been really into their music, their art, their theater, their architecture, and everything else. Yes, I think the women are exotic. So? I’ve always like brunettes whether they’re White, Hispanic, whatever race. I like darker skin, dark eyes, dark hair. It’s just a look that I really like. If I were single, I wouldn’t be looking for someone Hispanic, Black, Asian, or whatever, I’d be looking for someone with the characteristics that appeal to me AND who is interesting and kind. The packaging doesn’t matter if the inside is rotten. I think sometimes people read too much into these things. People like who they like.

That being said, I have dated girls over the years that were White that said I was the first White guy they’d been with, that they only date Black guys. And I’m like, “How is that possible?” How can you exclude every other race? That I have a problem with. I’ve been with Black girls who said the same thing: they only like White guys. Again, how is that possible? You have no basis of comparison. How do you know you only like White or Black if you’ve only been with one group? THAT seems racist. Even if it’s your own race, because I know people like that, too, that think the races shouldn’t mix. It’s just strange thinking to me. And I was raised in a conservative household with a moderately racist father that I still don’t think gets how what he says is racist. I spent most of my life living in the inner city, New Haven, CT for 20 years, and Bridgeport for 7. But I grew up in the burbs. I just moved back to the city as soon as high school was over because I hate homogenous. It makes me really uncomfortable. And I in no way feel guilty for what the other guy did, I’m not trying to make up for the past that I didn’t live, I just do my best to not be part of the problem, and to be an active part of the solution. Not by dating, in daily life, I mean. Simple things like treating everyone with the same amount of respect, lobbying my representatives for change, taking part in the discussions, and so forth.

As for dating, I haven’t found any explicit advantage to dating anyone of any race, my own included. I don’t think Black girls or Hispanic girls or anyone else are better in bed, or anything like that. I don’t feel like it gives me access to anything I didn’t have access to before. I just like who I like. My wife, on the other hand, would say there are advantages to being with me, but she’s being more tongue-in-cheek when she says it than being serious. I’m sure there are some advantages, and I’m fine with that, although it’s sad commentary on the world we live in. Everyone should be the same. And eventually we will be. Race is disappearing in this country, and eventually it will in the whole world. Wouldn’t that be nice, to all just be: people?

Uber, you SUCK!

A reply to someone’s post about Uber banning them from ordering: They just did the same thing to me. This is after deactivating me as a driver for alleged safety violations which none of 8 people over a month could find any record of. 8,000 trips, 4.9 rating, 100% on the delivery side, deactivated permanently. Then they tried to say I failed my background check after 4 years of driving for them, provided them a copy of the check they emailed me saying it was clear. Then they tried saying I had a duplicate account, which I do not. For every issue they had an excuse why I was banned, or couldn’t order. Ironically, my Postmates account works for delivering and ordering. I even asked them, “What could be so bad that I did that you had to ban me for life, but not on Postmates? And since my wife is also on the platform as a driver and customer, why’s it fine for her to order food to our hosue which I can get at the door, but I’m too dangerous to order it myself?” I have no accidents, no reports of any nature, no arrests, no tickets, never once been accused of anything untoward by Uber or customers/passengers: just *poof*: Banned. Still on Lyft, still on DoorDash, Grubhub, Postmates, Instacart, and Amazon Flex. But Uber thinks I’m a shitty human being and wants nothing to do with me.

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